The Titus Woman Effect

My heart has been headed in this direction for a few years. I am very excited to embark on this quest to help older women guide younger women in learning homemaking arts. Does this mean that I want to be the poster child for stay at home moms? No. I admire all women. I'm talking about the older generation passing down knowledge and guiding younger women in their faith walk.

 In my research I found this penned by Jean Williams. You can read the entire post here.

"I doubt that Paul was thinking of formal teaching or even formal mentoring (a recent concept!) when he encouraged older women to teach young women—although both teaching and mentoring have their place! The items on Paul’s list are very practical: loving a husband, managing a home, staying pure (Titus 2:4-5). Young women need older women to come alongside them, give them help and support, and, in the minutiae of life, offer words of wisdom and a godly example."NIV

Today I will delve a bit into the scripture I am using to build this journey. Going forward, posts will be about implementing the instructions, finding each other, group lessons, crafts, homemaking instruction and many others all pointing back in some way to Titus.
So here we go. In Titus 1:5-9, Paul writes the description of the elders.

5 The reason I left you in Crete was that you might put in order what was left unfinished and appoint[a] elders in every town, as I directed you. 6 An elder must be blameless, faithful to his wife, a man whose children believe[b] and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient. 7 Since an overseermanages God’s household, he must be blameless—not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain.8 Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. 9 He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it. NIV

As women, we often become focused on the things that our husbands struggle with such as being blameless, faithful to his wife or not being even-tempered or even being violent.  Our focus upon what our husbands are or are not is blocking our way to becoming what God wants US to be.
So many times I speak with young women and I hear things like "He doesn't deserve it because he..." or "I can't be at church because my husband won't come with me" and "Why should I try to be a Godly woman if my husband isn't saved." This mindset will affect not only YOUR walk with Christ but also that of your husband and your CHILDREN.
Don't let your husband's lack of godliness become your excuse for not walking your walk. In the end you are responsible for yourself. God will not judge you for what your husband did or didn't do. God will judge you by your own sins.
Try to remember why you married your husband. You were in love, right? You were happy, right? You wanted to spend your time with him and do things for him to show how much you loved him, right? In our first steps along the Titus journey, we will look for ways to get back to the happiness that you found once with him. As a matter of fact, stop reading right now, grab your phone and call him (Text, email, FB message, a note, a letter). Tell him that you love him and tell him how much.

That's all, make it simple and to the point.
See how easy that was? This one simple thing will allow you to begin to see a change in how you look at him and how you look at God.

Paul continues in Titus 1:15,16

15 To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted. 16 They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient and unfit for doing anything good.NIV

Those who are addicted to the things of this world have the enemy in their ear. He is always there, whispering how things that feel good are good, things that mask and hide the pain that they are facing

are good. These are lies. Prepare yourself to show Christ's love through your actions. THIS is how you help others along their journey. Just as we teach our children right from wrong, so should we help others to see right from wrong. When you proclaim that you are saved, others watch you for mistakes. Give them love to steer their attention from you to Christ. How we can do that is the subject of a later post. For today, tell your husband and children how you love them.

Prayer thoughts: Pray for your husband and children. Pray for guidance through out your walk. Pray for the wisdom and control to focus your eyes on improving your side of your relationship. 

Have a Blessed day!