Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Proverbs 31 Woman: She Does Him Good

"11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."

Proverbs 31:11,12

There it is. Your husband trusts in you with his heart. You will "do him good" always. We must bless our husbands. In order to bless him, we must allow the Lord to move in us. The first step will be prayer. Pray. For your husband. Continuously. Ask the Lord to move in his life. Also ask Him to lead you on your journey to becoming more precious to your husband than jewels.

Do you try to control your husband? Are there things that you feel he should be doing as a husband and father? Do you feel that he does not deserve your blessing because he does not treat you as the Bible teaches? The Bible teaches wives to be submissive.

"But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a woman is her husband, and the head of Christ is God." I Corinthians 11:3

"3 Bid the older women likewise to be reverent in behavior, not to be slanderers or slaves to drink; they are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be sensible, chaste, domestic, kind and submissive to their husbands, that the word of God may not be discredited.
Titus 2:3-5

"22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-23

How can I bless my husband when he ______________________ (fill in the blank with something from your list of his faults)? When you find yourself thinking about some thing your husband does that makes you cringe, try to coach yourself to see one good thing about him. We must bless them, richly. We are commanded of it by God. However, we don't have to look at it as a command. God has richly blessed women with the job of family. This is a full time ministry. Yes, I said ministry. It is your blessing from the Lord to have your husband and children, and possibly other family members to care for. Just because your husband isn't Saint John every day is no reason to withdraw your blessings.

The first step is to begin a new walk with God. Choose a time each day to be in God's presence, one on one. If your heart is hardened against your husband, ask God to help you see the good things in your husband. Your critical frame of mind comes from your sinful nature as a human being. Once you begin to submit and bless your husband, you will begin to see your husband grow into a Godly husband. READ, study and pray. Read your Bible. Study it. God will lead you on this journey, you have only to ask.

How can I bless my husband? Again, I say pray for him unceasingly. Try a few of the following little special things. He may not TELL you that he notices on the first day, but he WILL tell you eventually.

*Fix his lunch(include a note)
*Be at the door to kiss him good-bye when he leaves for work or go kiss him good-bye when you leave for work
*Iron his shirts or make sure that his dry cleaning is picked up
*Lay out his clothes
*Meet him at the door with a cold drink after a long day
*Hide a bag of his favorite candy in his car for him to find in the morning
*Call or text him just to say I Love You-my sister just posted on Facebook how much she loved the fact that her husband texted her "I Love You"
*Massage his feet while you are watching TV
*Send him little notes of encouragement-I tape mine to my husband's computer screen. That way I know he will see them!

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Proverbs 31 Woman:Rubies

"A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies." Proverbs 31:10 NIV

The Virtuous Woman...she is the one we aspire to as wives and mothers. This series of posts will focus on how you can help yourself be the "Proverbs 31 Woman" in tiny steps. I will discuss what it means, how to live it, and give you ideas and projects to help you in your walk.
Can you just imagine being worth more than rubies? What if your husband let you know you were worth more to him than the one material thing he values most? Do you feel that way today? Do you look that way today? Have you been treating yourself as if you are a valuable person? Have you taken TIME for YOURSELF?
When WAS the last time you pampered yourself?
The economy has hit rock bottom. This project will be one which uses what you have! Today we are going to make ourselves feel like we are valuable. First, let your husband know that you are taking a little me time. You may need to schedule a time. Work out with your husband a time when he can spend time with the kids, OUT of the house. Suggest they go to the park. Pack them some snacks or a nice lunch. Remember we are doing this with what we have. You don't need to spend a bunch of money! They will be eating lunch anyway, so why not put it in a bag and send them to the park! The fresh air will do them all good!

Gather your supplies ahead of time. This way, you won't be scrambling around wasting your alone time finding what you need!

This project is the Pampering Bath!

Gather a candle or two, they don't need to be new! Grab that candle your brother's girlfriend gave you for Christmas that has been sitting in the closet since December! Borrow the candle from the kitchen! If you HAVE to, get one from a dollar store.

Next, find some bubble bath. Was there bubble bath that came with that candle last year??? If you don't have any, use shampoo or shower gel, I do it all the time!

Ok, how about that book or magazine you have been wanting to start, or even better, get out your iPod or radio and put on some music that YOU like.

Now, put these items in the bathroom so you know where they are.

Once you have the family prepared, synch yourself and your husband's timing so that when they come home, you are pampered, refreshed, and ready to be with them!

Once they are gone, head to the bath and draw yourself a tubful of relaxation. Turn on the music, light the candle, turn down the light, shut the door and hop(figuratively of course)in!

Enjoy and think about your worth to your husband and children. You are the anchor of their lives. You can submit yourself to your husband while still maintaining this role. The Bible is very clear about this.

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything."
Ephesians 5:22-23

"Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."
Titus 2:4-5

Now try to let go of all those little things your husband does that you feel the need to be in control of and let the Lord speak to YOU. Open yourself to His Gentle teaching. Being controlling is a prideful character trait.

"Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall."
Proverbs 16:18

Put your pride away and allow God to replace it with love and blessings for you to shower upon your husband.

Once your time is up, dress and prepare yourself to shower your family with blessings!

Next: Blessing your husband!

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Friday, October 7, 2011

Surprised by a Blessing!

I am super excited! I have a new shop(opened at the spur of the moment today)! And I already sold $17 worth of goodies! It's really just a "junque" shop, but I will have antiques, collectibles, gifts, candles, crafts, new items and thrifty goodies! Its called Blackberry Barn and you can visit the "in the works" website, which is still under construction. I will be blogging from the shop often, and posting pictures soon! I will still have Sunday thru Wednesday for my homemaking and s*h (super*hubby) will be helping along the way! I am so pumped!!!

We've had quite a downturn in finances and have been struggling with options about what to do. This kind of fell into our laps on Wednesday! I am so thanful the Lord has shown us a new path to take which will allow us to serve Him as well.